Tuesday, September 30, 2008
The other Bergmans (from September 30)
We just spent the weekend in Paris. Sunday was a party to celebrate Axel's great uncle Rolf's birthday (80) and his and his wife Claire's 50ieth anniversary. It was wonderful to finally meet this branch of the family tree since I realized that I have inexplicably been absent at all of their gatherings. In fact, a relative from Victoria (actually she is the sister in-law of Claire...I think her name was Liz?) who was there reminded us that 13 years ago, I skipped out on a dinner with the family in Vancouver (sushi dinner...she has a great memory!) because we had just started dating and we both figured it would be weird to have me there. Liz said that her daughter brought her brand-new boyfriend at the dinner and now they are still together. It was pretty funny thinking about the early days.
Rolf was Axel's grandfather's youngest brother. This family was originally from Sweden (in fact, Axel's grandfather never gave up his swedish citizenship) and ended up in France, but all of the kids ended up everywhere. Axel's great aunt, Alix, spent a year in New York and actually speaks english with a NYC accent. So Rolf went to Canada to work, and he met Claire, who was from Belgium but was sent by her dad along with the rest of her family to Montreal during the war. They eventually made their way back to France. Claire's family also moved around a lot. I had a great conversation with Frances, another in-law of Claire's, who just moved to Victoria from Kingston, about French paperwork. Oh yes, it plagues everyone! That will be for a future blog, when we can look back and laugh...no laughing yet.
What was really cool were that the mannerisms and physical characteristics I would normally only vaguely associate with Axel's dad were displayed all over the room. His 3rd cousin, Nicolas, has the exact same hair as Axel (in fact, Nicolas' mother thought for about a second that Axel was Nicolas). The same hairline and crazy wings that offshoot from the ears. The nose and mouth is definitely Bergman. Stephane and Axel have similar movements when they are thinking (which I didn't realize until now). But my favourite discovery was the "arms crossed and lean to one side" look that most of the Bergmans have. It was so weird to see them all standing at a doorway talking to each other in the pose. It really made me smile and realize how genetics really do play a role passed our eye colour.
We stayed at Stephane's again. And this time, the endless stairs didn't seem so bad. I think I just got used to all of the stairs from our place. Totally surprised myself. Stephane showed us the newest look for Decleor, the brand that he is revamping as the newest International marketing director. I started using their products last xmas when he gave me some to try and they have changed my skin. I didn't really start seriously until April when I bought a couple more products after going for one of their facials. Even Axel has noticed a difference. Anyway, Stephane has the job of re-inventing the brand. It was cool to see the concept and how he came up with it. I'll keep you all in the loop of when the new look comes out. I had no idea how complicated it is to come up with a new idea. What is invigorating is feeling Steph's excitement when he talked about it. He has finally found a place where he can just go nuts with his vision. I love it!
The day before, I spent the day with Melissa and Tony, who were in Paris for a few days after a wedding in Ireland. We went to a great vegetarian restaurant in the Marais district. This area is the gay area and has the best stores for men. So Tony had his own shopping day! The difference between girls shopping and boys shopping is actually pretty significant. I couldn't pinpoint it until that day when Tony was looking for a jacket. It reminded me of Axel's long search for a suit for our wedding. Boys don't do this much so they don't know the inventory, what is really out there, how much is too much, when it's a good deal, etc. Hence shopping with boys is always a frenzied and stressful task. And usually it ends up either fruitless or the only thing bought is the first thing they saw and mostly liked. When girls go shopping, it's calm and peaceful, yet we always end up with something. What I realized when I was there was that I really haven't hung out in Paris enough. We have always gone to see family and maybe check out a museum. So because Axel was learning about satelite imaging all day Saturday, I had a great afternoon all to myself in the city. I took a book and walked along the Champs d'Elysees, read a little in the Tuileries, hung out outside the louvre checking out the eiffel tower from afar, and finishing it off with a walk down Rivoli street which is good for shopping. Nope, bought nothing.
I left Axel in Paris while so he could check out rockets. He can elaborate because, well, the only thing I really know about rockets is that I can spell rockets. I really have to go to one of his lectures just to understand a little space lingo.
I'm going to try and catch up on the rest of our activities soon!! Hard when we have a varying and intermittent connection so don't give up on us!
A plus.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
from moi
I just wanted to send a message from me too. We're ok. Thanks so much for your concerns. It was a long, hard week but it's over and we're just moving on. I think what has made it easier is that we don't know too many people in this city and essentially just had each other for company, so is became much less dramatic.
What I realized quickly is that my french is far better than I gave myself credit for, especially in times of stress! I managed to answer all of the questions from the doctor, listen to her admin's extremely vague directions on how to get to the clinic behind the hospital in a different city (Schlitingheim or something like that...different city but in reality it would be like going from arbutus to granville street) to visit a doctor on the 3rd floor (which is really the 4th), go to the other doctor who turned out couldn't understand why the first doctor kept sending patients to her since she was an addiction specialist (when I gave her my letter from the first doctor, her first question was "You don't take heroin do you?" and my first question to her was "Is heroin the same word in english?"...she told me that she has had so many patients from the first doctor who she had to send elsewhere...and yes, she has called the doctor to explain the mix-up many times but the admin seems to not understand), find the other part of the clinic where I could find another doctor who could help me, explain the mix-up to the clerk and let her know that I am Canadian so would need to pay up-front, tell everyone who wanted to know why the hell we were in Strasbourg in the first place just to appease their curiosity of having a foreigner in their clinic, re-explain everything to the third doctor, understand the explanation of how to take the crazy labour-inducing pill the next day and when to come back, find the lab to get my blood drawn in the hospital in front of the clinic, and figure out how to get back home. Yes, I know it was one long sentence, but I wanted you to feel how I did during this long crazy day! Actually, it was only 3 hours but it felt like forever. Thank goodness Axel came with me when I had to go back because after the excrutiating pain, the last thing I wanted to do was translate expletives from english to french at how badly it hurt!
One thing that was extremely frustrating was how no one could believe that I was married but don't have Bergman as my last name. For a country like France which is so progressive in so many areas that everywhere else is still stuck in the 50s, you would think that this kind of thing would be more common! You wouldn't believe how many times I was asked what my maiden name was and when I said it was Cruz they assumed I didn't understand so I would explain that Bergman is my partner's name but I still use Cruz. They would roll their eyes or do the familiar "oh god, she really doesn't understand what I'm asking her" lip purse, and then re-ask the question. And then I would say that I kept my last name because it was easier. And EVERY person would tell me that in France, it is automatic to use your husband's name. So I would then say what if they wanted to use the wife's name to which they stopped harrassing. I don't want you to think that I don't like the name Bergman. It's a great name. But having Cruz my whole life and then just switching now just makes it confusing for me. The bank has refused to let me keep my name though. And my resident card also has Bergman as my last name, despite having no documents with Bergman attached to my name. It's kind of a game for me right now. How many times can I say my last name is Cruz and then have Bergman put on the file.
OK...now Strasbourg needs to be explored and because Axel is spaced out, I must do the duty. Since this medical pause, we have already checked out the european parliament, cronenberg breweries, jupiter and 3 of its moons, as well as settled in. More to come so stay tuned!
:)
Sad News...
It seems my inexperience and excitement got the better of me from my last posting. Sadly Rani had to endure a miscarriage last week when she found out that the foetus was no longer growing and had to be removed. The doctors informed us that this is fairly common at the early stages of pregnancy. What made it a little more difficult for us is that in France they give you a special pill called Méthergin (Novartis product) which causes a rush of hormones simulating labour. Normally, the effects are felt a little over 48 hours later where you go into the clinic where they give you a second pill to help with the final phase. In Rani’s case, she went into contractions early and had the miscarriage on her own not needing the second pill. Apparently this is a more healthier thing to happen, the logic being the less pills the better, but Rani had to perform her miscarriage at home with me not really knowing how to help her. When we eventually did make it to the clinic though, the doctors thoroughly checked Rani out and gave her a clean bill of health, but indicated that she would have to endure contractions for a week or so. Rani is now doing much better physically, and life is slowly coming back to as normal as it can be in Strasbourg. The positive outcome is that Rani sorted it out earlier rather than later, and that we subsequently found out that this is a relatively common occurrence for many women who later go on to conceive. We’re not sure what the causes might have been, but there are a number of factors like strange foods, moving to a foreign country, or Rani’s body wasn’t ready. For my part, I’m sure to be more cautious in the future about these things, and not get too excited too soon.
Monday, September 8, 2008
Things I will miss most from Canada
1. Cheaper and better gluten-free products
edit: Prices are actually pretty similar but you just get more bread for your money.
edit: OK, I spent $8.95 for some pretty swank shopping bags when I went back to Vancouver. But you can also spend 99 cents for something similar.
edit: I looked for the specific filter in Vancouver and we don't have it. dang.
edit: now that I have been back, I realize there are a lot of things that are cheaper in France. And the food in France is way better quality so maybe this is what we pay for.
edit: I won't elaborate...see rant from earlier posts
edit: I stand by this 150%. Nothing beats Vancouver asian cuisine.
edit: these websites are even more annoying when you are in Vancouver.
A slaughterhouse, a palace, a tower and an irish pub
Yesterday was the first Sunday of the month, which means, in all of France, free museum and gallery day! For those who are in the midst of planning a holiday to France, take advantage of this. You'll save a ton of money and if you get bored, you can leave without feeling ripped off!
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Why Alsace is one of the best parts of France to live in
ISU-Week 1
Day 2 and three were a series of introductory lectures on economics (I now know what "marginal returns" are) and basic concepts of law. We also had a lecture on why we would want to go to space by Dr. Torienko who as one of the soviet union's senior engineers was sending space crafts to the moon during the sixties, built the Mir station and has been involved in pretty much every large international space project from the eighties and 90...so we all chuckled when he suggested that he had a little experience. So here's in interesting tid bit: did you know that the link between CO2 emissions and global warning was made by a canadian woman who analysed data from a venus space craft launched in the 70s. Turns out the planet was 100degrees hotter than what was predicted and she figured out it was due to the high concentration of CO2 in Venuse's atmosphere. Our series of lectures ended with the head of tourism Strasbourg giving us a lecture about Alsace..super cool! wanna go to Colmar and Mulhouse now..but I'm not totally sold on the heap of sausages required for "une choucroutte alsacienne."
The last two days were spent team building. The highlight was the boat cruise around the main island of Strasbourg and a treasure hunt centered around Place de la Cathedrale. Here's a cool concept, a few years ago the city decided to create a time capsule made of a stainless steel box not to be openned until the year 3790!! I was hoping to pry it open so I can slip in a note for my grand gran...grand children. We then had a reception at the Strasbourg city hall where we were hosted by the deputy mair of Strasbourg, who also happens to be the deputy mair of Illkirch and the Scientific director of CERN..how random, but this guy must be busy. They served us whine cheese and macaroons in the ball room. Apparently we're the only school who gets this kind of treatment..not even he ENA dudes down the street get an audience at the maire's house (probaby because they want his job). So now we're all ready to go and team trained so we all want to hug each other. I'm thinking that the pace is going to pick up starting Monday, so we're R&Ring this weekend maybe check out some museums on Sunday.
Just to finish the internet/phone line saga, turns out that our provider is still setting up our data line and won't be ready for an other week!...geesh, I think we'll have a house warming internet party when we finally do get this thing going...
Another interesting new factoid
Friday, September 5, 2008
A little americana
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Remnants of the war...maybe
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
The symbolism of being in Strasbourg
The regional mascot of Strasbourg and Alsace in general, is the stork. There are stork statues everywhere. You can get stork postcards. Stork stuffed animals. All things stork can begotten in this city. The birds themselves have become an endangered species but if you are lucky, you can spot them nesting in the trees and chimneys.
Internet and almost a landline
Mt Saint Odile!
Anyway, Mt Saint Odile is 9km version of Seymore where the road is a little windyer and a little narrower, but there are just as many roadies ..so I knew I was in the right place. Of course once at the top, instead of a ski hill there's a chateau that's been there for hundreds of year, and a natural spring that as it turns out is a major pigrimage site..feeling more holy already. But not as holy as the guy who was filling his car with bottled water to sell in the town below :-)
Strasbourg part two (from Rani)
First of all. We just found out our landline will begin to work onSeptember 2nd theoretically. Sorry for the pre-emptive message as I have heard from several people that the number doesn't work yet.
Secondly, I realized after I sent the first message that it might have sounded like we were stressed. In reality, we spent our first day wandering the streets of downtown Strasbourg filled with enthusiasm. Yes, we might have been tired and hungry as we couldn't find all of the health food stores I had carefully researched in Vancouver for some celiac-friendly cuisine and we had just moved across the county with two baskets full of provence spices, new sheets and towels from Ikea and clean laundry (which we will never take for granted again…more on that later), but Ax and I both have tendencies of nomadic life so thefirst real day in Strasbourg was really awesome.
The main reason for discovering all of these nearby bonuses was for the dreaded laundry run. We don't have a washing machine in our place nor in our building and the old "laverie" just closed down last year which used to be across the street. Our building manager told us that the closest one was still pretty far so we prepared ourselves for the trek. We got ourselves another old lady rolling cart so we each had one filled with laundry and set off. We needed to get a document sent by the bank to us signed by the nearest Post Office to confirm that we live where we live, so we decided to go there first. It was only open until noon (we got there at 3) so we had to abandon that piece of administration for another day. The post office is about 500 meters away but in the direction of Petite France, the most picturesque part of Strasbourg filled with tourists from all over, german pubs and lots of cute little squares commemorating various important people ofStrasbourg. I thought it was weird that one of the most german part of Strasbourg was called Petite France, but then from the boat tour we found out that the reason for the ironic name is because there was a venereal disease epidemic and the Alsatians assumed it was the French's fault, hence the isolation to Petite France…. Anyway, back to laundry. We decided to cross over to the Laundromat via Petite France so we rolled our dirty clothes through the crowds of tourists and realized it probably wasn't the best timing, considering that this weekend is the last for the holidays before school starts and all areas of picturesque Strasbourg was filled with people milking their freedom from school and work as enthusiastically as possible. We were told later that the craziness dies down in October so we might stilluse this path to get our clothes clean since it was really pretty. Anyway, after wandering around the "Grand Rue" which is more like thesize of a Gastown Alley over Granville Street, we found the Laundromat/laverie behind construction. Coincidentally, the bank was also behind construction so it took us a while to find that too.
Yesterday we also hit the marché (street market) so got lots of vegetables and fruit (and local cheese…yum), the monoprix for a broom, and did a boat tour in the evening topped off with the lighting of the cathedral (totally totally cool. Too bad the cathedral lighting stops at the end of summer!). Catherine wanted us to make sure we did some touristy things before real life began, so we had to make sure we did the boat tour. It was so good that both of us decided we would have to go a couple of times to get all of the info down. It was made even more exciting when a screaming match broke out between a group of young people having a good time and talking it up and laughing loudly and a few irate tourists who couldn't hear their headsets from the noise. It was pretty funny.
Today is Sunday and Axel has gotten our bikes put together. So I am assuming that you all know what Axel is doing today. He woke up and opened up all of the maps to find the closest mountain.
For those who haven't heard from me personally, I apologize. Thanks to Jean-Marie, I found out I can get free wi-fi at the McDonald's, butI just haven't gotten myself to the point where I can buy anything from that place just yet. One of the best sources of croissants is just next door so given the choice, I ended up just using my iPOD touch to download some emails and respond to any that were urgent. I'm going to the internet café today so I will make sure to respond to everyone!!
A la prochaine! Rani
PS. If anyone is interested in a really great book on French societyand culture, pick up "60 million French can't be wrong". Written bytwo Canadians Barlow and Benoit, and given to us by Catherine, itreally helps understand the nuances of French culture. I'm halfwaythrough.
Salut from Strasbourg (Rani's first e-mail)
We have finally gotten to Strasbourg and moved in. When we arrived in France, we stayed at Stephane's (Axel's cousin who you may all notice in pictures over the years. He has managed to coordinate meeting up at least once a year wherever we are!). Stephane lives in Paris in this awesome apt right next to the metro and surrounded by street parking which is free all of August. He lives on the 5th floor with no elevator so it definitely kicked my ass going up and down everyday. Unfortunately Steph was in Indonesia so we were on our own for the 3 days we were in Paris. We had to go to Strasbourg for a day to drop off our crazy luggage that Don brought for us a month previously which we picked up from Axel's family in Antony, a suburb just outside of Paris. Axel's cousin Camille, fed our hungry souls while we picked up our stuff.
We arrived in Strasbourg late on the 26th, so all we could do in Strasbourg was eat ice cream and orient ourselves in the neighbourhood. We found the local grocery store, various Indian, thai and Chinese restaurants, and the pretty incredible cathedral that Strasbourg is known for. Oh yeah, and the standard sausage and saurkraut cafes which I am sure we will be frequenting.
The next day (yesterday), we got our game on and got to work to find the closest bakery, veggies and fruit store before 9 am. We saw an old woman with her rolling cart so decided to follow her since all old women with carts are going to the market. But I think we scared her and she ended up escaping from our stalking efforts.
By the end of the day, we got my long-term resident card which I need for everything in France, our bank accounts, internet at home which will arrive in 3 weeks, as well as bonus finds like the market (where we got our own rolling cart (25 euros, which is actually cheap, some veggies for ratatouille and some fruits for dirt cheap (total 10euros)), the crossroads for the trams which was handy to know, the mall for some air conditioning time, a good place to photocopy, an internet café, and the best part: a Chinese grocery store!!!! That was such a find since we decided we needed rice for dinner and were dragging our heels about having to buy rice in the MarcheU which we knew was expensive. We got tofu, soya sauce with no wheat, currypaste, coconut milk for cheap, and a source for rice cookers. All in all, a good day.
What is great about this city is the close proximity for everything.We did all of this on foot and managed to do almost everything on our list. This afternoon is Ikea where we need to supplement our place with some kitchen utensils (we currently have 1 fork, 6 spoons, no knives, and 1 crepe pan). Tomorrow will be Axel's paperwork day: an appointment at 9:10 am at the university to get registered and his student card, and then his social security card and medical insurance started in France. We also need to get the electricity to come under our name. Interestingly, in order to do anything utility-related in France, you need to know the name of the last tenant and/or the name of the last person who had the phone line or cable hooked up. It's the only way the companies can figure out where you live in the buildings since many buildings, like ours, has no apartment number!?! Yeah, that's right, no number. We just live in the building, the backpart of the courtyard, 3 long flights of stairs up and the 3rd door on the left. We met our building manager who was the nicest woman and she tested all of the buzzers until she got ours to figure out which was our buzzer. I just don't get why they don't just number the doors. But maybe this is just North American mentality!?! I have a feeling this is just the tip of the iceberg.
When you call us, it's free for us. All incoming calls in Europe are free. So call often!! I think with VOIP, it's free to call France,but I'm not sure if it's just for landlines. The landline isn't working yet. Not sure when it will happen but I'm hoping it's soon since we started paying for it. Once we get internet (hopefully sooner than 3 weeks from now), we will have VOIP too so we can call Canada and the US for free.
If you are in France, you should call us. Strasbourg is 2h20 minutes away from Paris via train, and isn't expensive. And we have a very nice couch to sleep on. We'll post pics and Ax is determined to start a blog so I'll send you those details when I have them.
I'm only on the internet intermittently until we get our own so if I don't respond, don't be mad!! We miss you all.
Love Ran